Do politics matter when it comes to relationships?

In the wise words of Samantha Jones, “I don’t believe in political parties, I just believe in parties.” which on any given Thursday I would have to say I agree with her but in light of the recent election, this got me thinking about the universal question that crosses my mind every election, does politics matter when it comes to relationships?

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I never believed in the concept that politics mattered in relationships until I had not one but TWO guys break up with me because of my political views. Now, what I believe in or don’t believe doesn’t really matter but apparently to these guys it did. Let’s get into it.

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I once was seeing this guy for about a few weeks this past summer, he was sweet and cute and things were going great and honestly the thought that our political views could get in the way of our relationship never really crossed my mind. UNTIL, one night he said, “What would you do if you ever got pregnant right now” First off, can we all just agree that this is f. weird that homeboy would ask that? Like we were only a few weeks into this thing and don’t get me wrong he was very cute but not cute enough to be blessed with my hypothetical offspring but moving on.

Now, what I said or didn’t say doesn’t really matter but in the end, homeboy dumped me over our hypothetical child. Which was my first indication that politics did in fact matter in relationships but me being the over-optimistic human that I am wanted to believe that hey maybe it just wasn’t meant to be, besides who wants to be with a guy who was planning on having my children, when we were only a month into dating? Not me, so we moved on with our lives.

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The second time, I realized that politics mattered in relationships was when I met another guy who was also sweet and awesome until one day I discovered one of his hobbies. Now before I begin explaining about man #2 let me fill you in on some background information. So, imagine this its summer break, all your college friends have gone home and your weekends have been replaced by hanging out in someone’s basement from high school and movie marathon’s with your mom. If you can imagine you would get bored pretty fast, so what better way to cure your boredness? Hit up an old high school boyfriend of course. Am I exactly proud of dating this guy again because I had nothing better to do this past summer? No, but honestly after the way he ended things with me, this article does not compare to the justice this man deserves but moving on with the story.

Basically, it’s the same old, same old, guy meets girl, girl likes the guy, things are going awesome until one day I look under his car seat to find this huge ass handgun literally right under me. This followed into the conversation that he was a HUGE gun guy and no one was going to take away his guns, America. Now, like I said I’m not going to share my political views with you guys but I will let you know one thing about me and that is that I’m not a fan of guns, to each it’s own but personally it’s not my thing. Now, to this guy it WAS his thing, like this man lived, breathe, and worshiped guns, it was like dating the poster child to an NRA ad.

Anyways, not long after I told him I wasn’t a fan of his gun collection, he told me he needed some time apart and I never heard from him again and moral of the story ladies and gentlemen is you should never hit up your high school ex-boyfriend’s when your bored and B. You should never date a conservative Republican if you don’t side with our current gun laws. Thanks for coming to my ted talk.

No just kidding, but in all honesty, after those events occurred, I came to the conclusion that in relationships politics do matter (somewhat) and here’s why. Whatever controversial issues you support or don’t support reflect a lot about your moral and life values, not every issue but the big ones. So if your dating someone who’s life values doesn’t match up with yours I’d imagine it be hard to maintain a long-term relationship if you guys don’t believe in the same things. (EX: if I ended up with guy #2 our living room decor probably would of consist of a wall dedicated to AR-15’s.) UNLESS you happened to be dating someone who is pretty cool and open-minded then I think it could work. I think it sorta depends on the person tbh.

I asked random people at work one day what they thought on the topic and this is what they said.-

Barback guy:  Oh yeah, for sure they do, if I was dating a girl who’s political views didn’t line up with mine I would end it immediately.

One of the kitchen workers: Yes, they do. My wife and I have been married for 20 years and the most we fought in our entire marriage is when Bush, Obama, and Trump have been in office.

The Bartender: No, but also some things are better left unsaid when it comes to those types of things.

A random couple I sat: Ahh, not really. We don’t share the same political views, yet we get along but then again we’re both pretty laid back when it comes to politics.

A drunk guy sitting at the bar (and I quote word to word): ” Listen, honey, I grew up super liberal and I once had a friend who grew up super controversial and our friendship actually ended over a fight about our political views, so yes they do.

So in conclusion, I think it depends on the person and the situation and it seems like out of all the people that I have asked they do matter in relationships, but only if you let it. So this Thanksgiving, remember to agree to disagree with your conservative or liberal family members and if all else fails at least there’s wine.

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Xo,

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An Open and Honest Post About Being A Blogger

At first when I was brainstorming ideas on what to write about this week, I, of course, thought about the usual things like something fashion related or fall fashion related or something of that sort. But then I looked at my agenda and had a slight panic attack; I had 9 million different things to do this week and no time to do them how in the world was I going to fit in about four hours of my day to write, edit, take pictures and put up a clothing blog post in one day when I have SO much to do? Continue reading “An Open and Honest Post About Being A Blogger”

Things I Wish I Had During Sorority Recruitment​

Hi loves! Sorority recruitment is just weeks away and I know every chapter on campus can’t wait to meet our PNM’s (potential new members) I didn’t know what this stood for when I first read that word so just in case you didn’t know either that’s what it means but moving on. Every sorority has been planning and double checking that everything is perfect for this upcoming recruitment year and we can’t wait to meet you girls and possibly call you our sister!

I remember when I went through recruitment, I was so excited to go through and meet every chapter on campus that I hardly slept the night before open house (the first day of recruitment). I picked out all my outfits in advanced and stalked every girl that had her sororities name in her Instagram bio and I was READY to go. As each day went by and I was one step closer to finding my forever home I often found myself in situations throughout the long days where I would think to myself “wow I wish I had this right now”. So instead of you making the same mistakes I did, I put together a list of things that you could bring with you to make your rush week as easy as possible.

 

  1. A Fan- Ladies, it’s the middle of August it’s HOT outside and it’s even hotter walking around all day long. So do yourself a favor and invest in a fan you will thank yourself later.

2. An Umbrella-  On the first day of open house it poured on us, We were all in grey t-shirts and it was hot and humid and let me tell y’all I looked like I had just walked out of a hurricane by house 5 of that day. It was rough, even my rain jacket was SOAKED, ( Another thing you should bring with you) So don’t be like me and bring an umbrella and a raincoat your hours of hard work on your hair and makeup will thank you later.

3. Blotting sheets- Going back to how dang hot it is outside, my makeup made my face look super oily from the heat and it just kept getting worse as the day progressed on. Keep some blotting sheets in your purse or with your gamma chi, you’ll be happy you did!

4. Bandaids- If you’re anything like me or the average girl, you like to choose your outfit over being practical, those cute wedges look super cute with your outfit until you reach house 4 and your entire back heel is covered in blisters. I get it, you want to look your best and no one is telling you, that you can’t but bring some band-aids to help you out along the way.

5. Gum- If I had to pick one thing to bring from this entire list it would be gum, ladies we want to talk to you and get to know you but keep in mind we are also talking to about 50 other girls at the same time we are talking to you so we are super close to each other for most of our conversation.  Bring some gum as a courtesy to the girls you are going to be talking too, no one wants to be remembered as the girl who had bad breath.

6. A small bag- I mentioned this earlier, it’s not necessarily something you HAVE to have during recruitment but it’s nice to have something to carry your phone or lipstick in or the things I mentioned above. Even a clutch or a shoulder bag will do the trick!

Lastly, remember to come in with an open mind, coming into recruitment I already knew a lot of different girls from different sororities because I had grown up in the area so I had a pretty good idea of where I wanted to go. Turns out what I thought I wanted really wasn’t meant for me all along but that was okay because I’m super happy and proud to be apart of my sorority today. You will hear this phrase so many times during recruitment but “trust the process” you may think it’s dumb or not true but it’s there for a reason and it really does work, you will find the chapter that you’re meant to be in and you’ll eventually call it home.

Every chapter is different from the other but we all have one thing in common which is the love we have for our sisters and the love we have for being a part of something bigger than our own selves. Every sorority serves a different purpose to a different organization but at the end of the day we love being a part of Greek life and that’s what unites us. You will find your lifelong best friends and you’ll meet other girls who aren’t in your sorority too, you are going to do great and we can’t wait to meet you and welcome you home!

xo,

A List of Thank You’s To the People Who Helped Shape Me Into The Person I Am Today.

Tomorrow is the day, I pack up the life I know now and begin a new journey in the next chapter of my life called college. I have so many emotions going through my body currently and I couldn’t describe just one I’m feeling right now. But I do know that I am very thankful for every lesson, laugh, and hardship that brought me here to this very moment.

As excited as I am to move into my new dorm and meet my new roomie (hi Kylie!) I can’t help but be saddened a little by the fact that this is the last day I will be a “kid”.  All the memories that fill my house now will soon be replaced by new ones, in a new room, in a new place and although I will always have those memories it just won’t quite be the same feeling as it is now.  So… Continue reading “A List of Thank You’s To the People Who Helped Shape Me Into The Person I Am Today.”